I missed the memo about leaps of faith.
The other day I watched a movie called Ira & Abby and boy, is it adorable and just chock full of memos.
First things first, Jennifer Westfeldt is a freakin’ genius. Seriously, all I need to know about life I’ve learned from watching “Kissing Jessica Stein” and “Ira & Abby”. I hope she makes another movie, and soon.
In case you haven’t seen it, the premise of “Ira & Abby” is that the titular characters meet cute and after about six hours, decide to get married. Hyjinx ensue, of course. Making a huge life decision like marriage should be carefully considered and undertaken only after serious reflection, right? Well, sure. Usually.
But sometimes, there is something pretty amazing about leaping without looking. Sometimes you can make a decision without having all the answers. Sometimes you can start with certainty and work backwards. Sometimes, you trust your guts and then just figure it out from there.
I’ve mentioned before that I’m pretty high-strung by nature, so the idea of taking any big step without a lot of careful preparation is fairly terrifying to me. But here’s the thing…I think my need to control things is probably just ego. Who the hell am I to think that I can plan everything out and then have everything go according to my plan? Doesn’t the universe have some say? In the words of Alanis Morrissette…”Life has a funny way of sneaking up on you…” No matter how I plot my course, there will always be some unforeseen detours, so once in a while, why not throw away the map all together?
There is actually something kind of liberating about surrendering the pretense of control in some situations and just going with what feels right. And there’s something almost intoxicating about the crazy confidence that comes from just trusting yourself. But with that intoxication sometimes comes the hangover of working out the details. But hey, once you’re emboldened by your own decisiveness, the logistics are cake.
I’ll leave you with this Jason Mraz video…I dare you to watch it and not feel instantly happier and more optimistic. Leap and the net will appear, indeed.
Awesome (and pretty timely) post. I am getting ready to make a leap, after slowly and methodically creeping up to the edge, trying to maintain some sense of control. I share your need for that feeling of control, but I can thank motherhood for readjusting my threshold for chaos. I’ll keep you posted on whether I land with grace on the other side.